How To Forgive Yourself For Getting Sick (& Why You Need To)

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I recently came down with the flu, and it reminded me of how ungracefully I can respond to sickness, even after years of dealing with chronic illness.  Yes, I’ve gotten waaaaay better at accepting that being sick means doing less and resting more.  But when I paid attention to my thoughts, I saw that I was still blaming myself for being sick and I caught myself feeling in turns frustrated, disappointed and guilty because of my symptoms. 

Ultimately in order to heal I had to forgive myself for needing to heal in the first place.  Continue reading “How To Forgive Yourself For Getting Sick (& Why You Need To)”

In Sickness & In Health: Chronic Illness and Keeping an Open Heart

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My husband and I have been together for almost 11 years. For the last 7 of them chronic illness has affected our relationship, but it hasn’t changed our love.

In a partnership like marriage, when one person lives with chronic illness, both people end up hurting, even if it’s in different ways. When I first became severely ill, I was unable to look beyond my own suffering to recognize that it wasn’t mine alone.

True, I was the one feeling the physical pain, but suffering is different from pain. Suffering has a mental quality to it, and includes the emotional states of fear, grief, anger, disappointment, guilt, frustration, hopelessness and so on.

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